this past weekend kraig and i received BIG fat F's in the subject of communication (ok ok, kraig got a D-, and i got an F). every night we went to bed angry at each other, and woke up the next morning ignoring the fact that we were bugged by each other the night before. let's just say the "sweeping things under the rug" train came to a screeching halt on sunday night. we did the usual newlywed arguing (almost 6 months in... i can still say newlyweds, right? right?!?). you know, the kind where you try sooo hard to poke holes in the other's story and listen for sentences that contradict earlier ones. it was quite the battle.
in the end neither of us felt victorious, and so many things were brought to the surface that seem beyond irrelevant now. after the argument we went our separate ways. kraig was watching TV in the living room, and i was laying in bed. a few minutes passed and kraig came back into our room, sat down next to me, and said, "soo i don't think i can say anything else to make you feel better, but as i was sitting out there, i realized, maybe i just need to give you loves and snugs (snuggles)."
how did he know?!?!?! it was literally what i was thinking in my head throughout the whole battle, but i wouldn't DARE say it out loud. thank goodness for my sweet, mind-reading husband. all this girl needed was a little love and affection. anyways, i learned a very special lesson, and i am working on it guys.
#realtalk
My husband and I just had one of the fights over the weekend as well. I can't help but laugh at myself after thinking about it. Those photos are gorgeous and I love your blog.
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Carlee, you are so sweet! it does seem silly after the fact and there's definitely a bigger learning curve than i expected! hope all is well with you :)
DeleteI love how real you are... You truly care about him... and I can tell that by your words of truth you are talking yourself through. Keep it up beauty!! You are an amazing couple.
ReplyDeleteGurl, I love your blog. Also, fights totally happen and I swooned a little at your Kraig's response. I've stormed out of the room once on Graham and he came and found me and was like "Can I just give you a hug?". Cutest thing ever and made me feel like a TERRIBLE wife. Hopefully when we're crazy our husbands can always keep a cool head and vice versa. Keep posting cause I love them!
ReplyDeleteBethany!!! I'm so glad to hear that i'm not alone in this, haha. so happy you are following and hopefully we might cross paths in ohio at christmas?? fingers crossed!
Deletebeen there girlfriend.
ReplyDeleteAw, you guys are so adorable! I love how you're so real...not ashamed to reveal to the world that you are human too and you have fights too. Love your blog, great stuff!
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Thanks Audrey, you are so sweet!
DeleteLove this post! Sounds a lot like me and my boyfriend:) Loving your blog. I'm now following you on bloglovin and can't wait for more of your posts!!
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Aw how sweet! Fights like this happen to the best of us. I love how open you write about personal stuff like this. Definitely a breath of fresh air in the blogsphere. :)
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xo Andrea
Wonderful and Marvelous
#realtalk is much appreciated and refreshing to read! Glad you guys are okay and strengthened!
ReplyDeleteSeriously thank goodness for husbands. Eric is always the one to break the ice whenever we get into little tiffs. Definitely need to work on my humbling skills.
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Lovely photos.
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I love the honesty of this post. We all suffer from these lapses in communication, but the rest of us (or at least me) generally try to glaze it over and hide it from view. But it happens, and the only way to grow from it is to acknowledge it. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your thoughts Robin! There's definitely a learning curve involved. Hope you have an awesome thanksgiving! :)
DeleteI feel like when you are newlyweds you want to try to make your life seem so perfect all the time because it's what marriage is "supposed" to be like. But in reality, the first year is by far the hardest one- learning to live with someone is not a walk in the park. I love how real you are in talking about not getting along and how marriage isn't always perfect. Here's to perfectly imperfect marriages :)
ReplyDeletethis is really sweet :) my husband and I will sometimes have little arguments like this but on thing I have learned is to never go to bed upset!! I hate it when we do that it always makes me feel icky. but don't you just love love?? you can go from mad to completely forgetting the whole thing with just some snuggles :) love is the best.
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